Most of the Internet dating advice available is for the person who has never participated in Internet dating before. Standard dating advice about how to begin Internet dating, what precautions to take when dating online, and how to move relationships from the Internet to the real world are all widely available. However, what about those people who need dating advice because Internet dating is something they enjoy but something just isn’t quite working for them? Thousands upon thousands of people have been using the Internet as a means of dating for years now, and those people need a different type of Internet dating advice than the Internet dating advice available for the novice Internet dater. Finally, that Internet dating advice is here.
Dating advice for the experienced Internet dater generally relates to three different major complaints. Either you aren’t meeting people despite your frequent use of internet dating services, you are meeting people but they are the same type of people over and over again, or you’re meeting new people and forming new relationships but they only seem to get to a certain relationship phase and then they fizzle out. People struggling with any of these three scenarios can benefit from some basic Internet dating advice.
Complaint number one for whom experienced Internet daters often seek dating advice is: “I’m online all the time and I’m not meeting anyone.” These are Internet daters who are putting in an honest effort at finding a match online but just don’t seem to ever find anyone who meets their needs. There are three different reasons for this. One is that you might be too picky. One is that you might not be expressing what you need clearly. And the last is that you might be on the wrong sites. You should figure out exactly what you are seeking from an online relationship, but be realistic about it. Your profiles and posts should clearly express what you are seeking. And if you still aren’t finding it, you should try using different sites. There are specialty sites for all different types of people and you should consider one of these if general sites aren’t working for you.
Complaint number two for which people seek dating advice is: “I’m meeting the same people again and again”. Most often, these complaints come from the people who have Internet access all throughout the day at work or school. You know who you are. You post and peruse Internet dating sites almost like it’s a full time job. The problem with this is two-fold. First, you are most likely reading every profile that comes across, which means that you are either seeing the same people online all of the time or you are seeing so many people with the same interests that everyone is starting to blur together. Second, you might be stuck in a rut, posting the same thing about yourself again and again, so that you’re only drawing interest from the same type of people. The best Internet dating advice for you is to limit your use of Internet sites for a while, trying to explore all of the options within one or two sites before moving on to another site.
Finally, many experienced Internet daters seek Internet dating advice because they meet and date a lot of people online, and they’ve had some success with relationships, but after a certain point, the relationships just fizzle out. Unfortunately, the answer here is not a simple one and the dating advice might not be what you want to hear. Internet dating is designed to help you meet more people who meet your needs. However, it’s a matchmaker, not a miracle cure, and if you have problems maintaining relationships, you might need more than dating advice to help you out. Don’t worry; you’re actually one step ahead of the game because you’ve moved on from needing Internet dating advice to being able to really work on the issues that are holding you back.
12/10/2011
7/11/2011
Christian Dating Sites
Internet dating or matchmaking services give members the opportunity to look at all the options and make a more informed decision about whom they want to contact. Members of these services are given the opportunity to take the initiative and pursue the person he or she is interested in meeting.
Most internet dating or matchmaking web sites were created for people of any lifestyle, however, many Christian singles realized that meeting other eligible Christians could be quite difficult. Christian Dating Sites emerged from the need of Christian singles to contact other Christian singles in their community. Like other dating web sites, Christian dating sites vary, depending on what the person is looking for.
Some sites target a specific age demographic, such as single Christians over 30 years old. Most sites, however, are for any age and denomination. They vary in the way that the questionnaire is set up and how people can contact each other. Matchmaking and dating services tend to work through questionnaires, and they will ask both in-depth and general questions.
Some Christian dating sites are actual matchmaking services that match one person’s profile with that of another. After the person has filled out the questionnaire or series of surveys, the site will match up the person with a variety of potential dates based on similar interests, demographics, and psychographics. This person can then peruse the list of potential dates and decide whom to contact. Most matchmaking sites like these will also give members the opportunity to perform their own searches based on certain criteria. The site will then direct them to the profiles of the other dating service members that fulfill those criteria.
Other Christian dating sites do not match profiles; rather, they encourage people to register, post a profile, and browse other members’ profiles. The questions asked on these profile-building pages are far more general than the questionnaires on the matchmaking sites. Anyone who is a member is able to contact other members directly; either through a web based email available through that service or through other web-based tools, like blogs.
Most internet dating or matchmaking web sites were created for people of any lifestyle, however, many Christian singles realized that meeting other eligible Christians could be quite difficult. Christian Dating Sites emerged from the need of Christian singles to contact other Christian singles in their community. Like other dating web sites, Christian dating sites vary, depending on what the person is looking for.
Some sites target a specific age demographic, such as single Christians over 30 years old. Most sites, however, are for any age and denomination. They vary in the way that the questionnaire is set up and how people can contact each other. Matchmaking and dating services tend to work through questionnaires, and they will ask both in-depth and general questions.
Some Christian dating sites are actual matchmaking services that match one person’s profile with that of another. After the person has filled out the questionnaire or series of surveys, the site will match up the person with a variety of potential dates based on similar interests, demographics, and psychographics. This person can then peruse the list of potential dates and decide whom to contact. Most matchmaking sites like these will also give members the opportunity to perform their own searches based on certain criteria. The site will then direct them to the profiles of the other dating service members that fulfill those criteria.
Other Christian dating sites do not match profiles; rather, they encourage people to register, post a profile, and browse other members’ profiles. The questions asked on these profile-building pages are far more general than the questionnaires on the matchmaking sites. Anyone who is a member is able to contact other members directly; either through a web based email available through that service or through other web-based tools, like blogs.
7/06/2011
Can You Trust the Promises of Free Personals Sites?
It seems like almost every day there's a new website advertising free personal ads. With all these companies approaching us all the time, how do we differentiate between those who are truly able to deliver their promise of “free” personals from those who are using it as little more than a not-so-clever marketing ploy?
When signing up for an online dating service for the first time, the number of options out there can be staggering. Testing the waters by signing up for a few free personals sites can be a good first step into the online dating world without committing to paying for memberships. But, how do you protect yourself from being burned by a bad first experience with sneaky companies who lure customers in with promises of 'free personals', but rarely deliver?
One easy way to find out is by signing up for a free personals service. Start the sign up process, and if at any point your credit card is asked for, quit. There are few reasons for an online company to ask for your credit card unless they plan on taking money from you. But, read the fine print. If there are reasonable motivations for asking for credit card numbers, you might be able to reconsider. Trust your own judgment because ultimately, it's your money and your decision.
Another way to gage whether or not an free personals service will deliver their promise, browse around the site. If it looks reputable and nice, and if there are a lot of members, this could be a good sign. If other members have already signed up and stayed (check for 'last online' dates or recent activity on message boards, forums, etc.) it probably means that the site has a few satisfied customers.
To sum up, be wary of online dating services offering free services. Though there certainly are excellent sites who offer their services for free, there are also a few who use the 'free personals' promise as a lure to trap unsuspecting singles.
When signing up for an online dating service for the first time, the number of options out there can be staggering. Testing the waters by signing up for a few free personals sites can be a good first step into the online dating world without committing to paying for memberships. But, how do you protect yourself from being burned by a bad first experience with sneaky companies who lure customers in with promises of 'free personals', but rarely deliver?
One easy way to find out is by signing up for a free personals service. Start the sign up process, and if at any point your credit card is asked for, quit. There are few reasons for an online company to ask for your credit card unless they plan on taking money from you. But, read the fine print. If there are reasonable motivations for asking for credit card numbers, you might be able to reconsider. Trust your own judgment because ultimately, it's your money and your decision.
Another way to gage whether or not an free personals service will deliver their promise, browse around the site. If it looks reputable and nice, and if there are a lot of members, this could be a good sign. If other members have already signed up and stayed (check for 'last online' dates or recent activity on message boards, forums, etc.) it probably means that the site has a few satisfied customers.
To sum up, be wary of online dating services offering free services. Though there certainly are excellent sites who offer their services for free, there are also a few who use the 'free personals' promise as a lure to trap unsuspecting singles.
6/30/2011
Choosing an Online Dating Site
You’ve been looking for just the right person to explore a relationship with but you can’t seem to find them. Going to social get-togethers and saying yes to your friends’ set-ups have been fun, but they aren’t offering the kind of person you’d like to explore a long term future with.
Online dating is a way that you may be able to expand the pool of potential relationship opportunities. If you’ve watched any television lately you know there are many sites available offering relationship advice and possible connections, but which is the best for you. Each of us is, of course, a little different so consider these thoughts as you go about deciding which online dating site will work for you.
Safety
It would be safe to say that just about everybody has heard about identity theft in today’s society. Even before you begin the process of online dating, and accepting advice on dating, you should be aware that as soon as you enter some piece of information, and hit “return” ,that information is out there never to be taken back. Right from the very start you should be absolutely sure that you want that piece of information available to the world.
If a site asks for… just don’t
As you investigate the dating sites out there know rule number one; if a site asks for your identity number (social security number) do not give it over, look for another site. If a site asks for a telephone number; do not give it over, look for another site. If a site asks for your street address; do not give it over, look for another site.
Costs
Decide whether you would like to pay a fee for the use of an online dating service and the dating tips that they will give. There are many good sites out there that offer great match opportunities and relationship advice for free. The overall services that the pay sites may offer could be more numerous then the free sites but that does not necessarily mean that they have a better success rate.
Services
The benefit of services really depends upon how selective you would like to be in your search for the right person. Each site available has a certain set of services that they offer. These services are for you to select your match and to get to know that match. Selecting a site that offers a lot of services depends on what makes you comfortable in getting to know the other person. Some of the services offered include: social groupings, photo, age, sex preference, regional groupings, advice on dating and other preferences.
Contact procedures
Getting to know somebody online is one thing but meeting them for the first time in person or over the phone is quite another. Check to see if the site has a procedure where you can take the next step with a certain amount of safety built in. For example; can you speak with your online contact over the phone without either of you knowing the phone number of the other person?
Membership
Check out the membership of the online dating site. In many instances, the site will open itself up to a little poking around. See if the membership has a good representation in your region and if they are largely; young, older, divorced, professional or religious etc. Oddly, international representation can be a good indicator of a sites’ validity. Although there are exceptions, if a site has a large international representation you may want to be a bit more careful about your selection process. This is because some of the matches may have ulterior motives. These matches will also require a few international dating tips.
Ease of use
You’ll just have to figure this one out for yourself. Every site will be set up a little different from the others in how they are structured. In a certain sense, this is a good thing for you. If you feel comfortable with the site structure and your match feels comfortable you already have a certain similarity in how you think and work. The closer you get to similar thought patterns the fewer dating tips you will need.
Professionally oriented
Think about how the site is set up to do business. After all, a majority of sites are trying to make a buck. If the site is set up in a professional looking way and responds to your questions regarding relationship advice or match selections the site is likely genuine in its desire to match you up. If the site is a jumble of personal ads with little structure you may want to give it a closer look before you get involved.
Success rates
Start by asking friends that may have used the site. Ask if they have had a certain amount of luck meeting decent people. If they have, you may have similar luck. Another option, although it is wise to be a bit skeptical, is to ask for testimonials. It may be difficult to figure out who is sincere and who is not but listening for pat answers or inflections in their voices may help to weed out the less sincere couples. You might also ask them for advice of dating when using the service. This is new territory for you so asking how the process worked for them is a good idea.
Does the site offer advice?
Dating advice, relationship advice or other tips that can help you along are good indicators of a site that really wants you to succeed. You are really looking for a partnership with the site as much as with a relationship partner. In many ways, it is a lot like interviewing for a job. If somebody offers advice you at least listen. You may not use the job or dating advice but every little tip could help.
What do you really want?
This could be quite a bit trickier to answer then you may think. Having an idea of what you want and what will work can be a lot different then what will actually make the best match. If a site offers a personality or matching test, be honest with whom you feel you really are. There is really no sense in lying to yourself and wasting everybody’s time in the process.
Online dating is a way that you may be able to expand the pool of potential relationship opportunities. If you’ve watched any television lately you know there are many sites available offering relationship advice and possible connections, but which is the best for you. Each of us is, of course, a little different so consider these thoughts as you go about deciding which online dating site will work for you.
Safety
It would be safe to say that just about everybody has heard about identity theft in today’s society. Even before you begin the process of online dating, and accepting advice on dating, you should be aware that as soon as you enter some piece of information, and hit “return” ,that information is out there never to be taken back. Right from the very start you should be absolutely sure that you want that piece of information available to the world.
If a site asks for… just don’t
As you investigate the dating sites out there know rule number one; if a site asks for your identity number (social security number) do not give it over, look for another site. If a site asks for a telephone number; do not give it over, look for another site. If a site asks for your street address; do not give it over, look for another site.
Costs
Decide whether you would like to pay a fee for the use of an online dating service and the dating tips that they will give. There are many good sites out there that offer great match opportunities and relationship advice for free. The overall services that the pay sites may offer could be more numerous then the free sites but that does not necessarily mean that they have a better success rate.
Services
The benefit of services really depends upon how selective you would like to be in your search for the right person. Each site available has a certain set of services that they offer. These services are for you to select your match and to get to know that match. Selecting a site that offers a lot of services depends on what makes you comfortable in getting to know the other person. Some of the services offered include: social groupings, photo, age, sex preference, regional groupings, advice on dating and other preferences.
Contact procedures
Getting to know somebody online is one thing but meeting them for the first time in person or over the phone is quite another. Check to see if the site has a procedure where you can take the next step with a certain amount of safety built in. For example; can you speak with your online contact over the phone without either of you knowing the phone number of the other person?
Membership
Check out the membership of the online dating site. In many instances, the site will open itself up to a little poking around. See if the membership has a good representation in your region and if they are largely; young, older, divorced, professional or religious etc. Oddly, international representation can be a good indicator of a sites’ validity. Although there are exceptions, if a site has a large international representation you may want to be a bit more careful about your selection process. This is because some of the matches may have ulterior motives. These matches will also require a few international dating tips.
Ease of use
You’ll just have to figure this one out for yourself. Every site will be set up a little different from the others in how they are structured. In a certain sense, this is a good thing for you. If you feel comfortable with the site structure and your match feels comfortable you already have a certain similarity in how you think and work. The closer you get to similar thought patterns the fewer dating tips you will need.
Professionally oriented
Think about how the site is set up to do business. After all, a majority of sites are trying to make a buck. If the site is set up in a professional looking way and responds to your questions regarding relationship advice or match selections the site is likely genuine in its desire to match you up. If the site is a jumble of personal ads with little structure you may want to give it a closer look before you get involved.
Success rates
Start by asking friends that may have used the site. Ask if they have had a certain amount of luck meeting decent people. If they have, you may have similar luck. Another option, although it is wise to be a bit skeptical, is to ask for testimonials. It may be difficult to figure out who is sincere and who is not but listening for pat answers or inflections in their voices may help to weed out the less sincere couples. You might also ask them for advice of dating when using the service. This is new territory for you so asking how the process worked for them is a good idea.
Does the site offer advice?
Dating advice, relationship advice or other tips that can help you along are good indicators of a site that really wants you to succeed. You are really looking for a partnership with the site as much as with a relationship partner. In many ways, it is a lot like interviewing for a job. If somebody offers advice you at least listen. You may not use the job or dating advice but every little tip could help.
What do you really want?
This could be quite a bit trickier to answer then you may think. Having an idea of what you want and what will work can be a lot different then what will actually make the best match. If a site offers a personality or matching test, be honest with whom you feel you really are. There is really no sense in lying to yourself and wasting everybody’s time in the process.
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